Elaine (Holt) Malloy
She was soon fascinated by a picture showing three guys from Hopedale who were graduating from UMass.
She decided, then and there, that she was going to marry one of them. Fortunately, I was the one. There she
was, a 19-year old who had had no shortage of boyfriends, making this decision about someone she didn't
know, and she stuck with that decision for nearly a year before we started dating. What 19-year old does
anything like that? But that was Elaine. Whenever she set her mind to do something, she stayed with it.
During the past week I've spoken with many people whose lives were touched by Elaine. Most of their
stories I knew; some I didn't. They all involved her going out of her way to help them. I've seen her drop
everything when she found someone who needed assistance. We barely knew the Moroskis when Elaine
heard that Cathy was going to be hospitalized for a while. Right away we were over there at their home in
Northbridge, with Elaine cooking, washing clothes, cleaning the house and doing anything else that needed
to be done. I always got involved with anything she did. I walked their dog.
When Elaine found out that her Aunt Margaret in South Grafton was having difficulty doing what needed to be
done to remain in her home, she jumped right in to help. We'd go to Margaret's house three or four times a
week where she'd do anything needed. She'd bring the laundry home to wash, and return it on the next trip,
along with a few meals. She did all sorts of other things for her, and this went on for about six years.
Margaret was able to stay in her home, where she died a few months after turning 100.
When Elaine's Aunt Evelyn in Florida reached her 90s, she was at the point of needing help from time to time.
Elaine didn't like to fly, but nevertheless she made a good number of visits to Winter Haven to assist her not
easy to deal with aunt.
Of course much of Elaine's time and energy for years were spent taking care of DJ, CeCe and me, but there's
far too much of that to go into here.
After Elaine's mother died, it appeared that her father was unable to live alone. She very quickly converted our
dining room into a comfortable room for him. He lived there for the last five years of his life. A few years later
my father was too weak from heart trouble to function alone. Elaine turned the dining room into a room for
him, and he was there for the last four months of his life. Both situations involved many difficulties, but she
was able to handle them.
When Lisa and Ahren were building their house in Thompson, Connecticut, Elaine heard that they could use
some help. Very soon were going there most days of the week, for several months, staining woodwork and
doing whatever else was within our capabilities. I don't know what it was, but when we had done all we could
there, I'm sure she found another project somewhere else.
When there were no projects to be done, she would be knitting something for someone. She was always
finding someone she could add to her list of people she could give gifts to. A few years ago she came
across a pattern for a knit hat that she liked. She kept going back to a yarn store for more yarn, and by the
time she moved on to another activity, she had made and given away about 35 of them.
For years, usually starting not long after Christmas, she'd find a pattern for a wooden item she could give for
the next Christmas. She'd show it to me and say, "Danny, could you cut out 30 of these?" I'd buy some 1 x 8
and get to work with my band-saw. Often, before I was done, she'd think of a few other people and up the
number by two or three. I had the easy part of the job. She'd spend a long time on the painting.
Many years ago, Sacred Heart Church had an annual fundraiser called the Pumpkin Patch Fair. Elaine dove
right into that, creating stuffed fabric pumpkins and various other items to be sold at the event. She'd spend
every spare minute all week at her sewing machine. Then she'd bring what she had done into the weekly
meeting and have the ladies on the committee do some finish work. The following day she'd be back at it
getting ready for the next week. Recalling this, CeCe said the other day, the project would colonize the house.
When Elaine began as director of the Bancroft Library in Hopedale in 1988, she set five goals, and by the
time she retired in 2001, she had accomplished four and had the fifth underway. She might have
accomplished them all in one or two years, but the fin-comm wasn't about to dole out the money that fast.
When she started, the furnace was in a shed, roughly 40 feet behind the library. I'm sure most of the heat, as
it traveled from furnace to building, served the purpose of melting the snow above the pipe. Before long she
had a furnace installed in the building, and the shed is now used for storage.
Another project was getting air conditioning for the library. Until that was done, the library was closed on days
when the temperature in there got into the 90s. They had remained open when it was in the 80s, but of
course it was rather uncomfortable.
As children's books had gotten larger since the children's room was first opened, the shelves were no longer
suitable. Elaine had shelves made and delivered to the library. For a few weeks they sat in the program
room and hall while she polyurethaned them. The budget had provided enough money to have the shelves
built, but not to have them finished. She probably paid for the polyurethane herself. We both painted some of
the walls downstairs. She also painted Disney characters on the wall of the children's room and did some
other children's literature related paintings in the hall and program room. At some point, probably when all of
this was done, she had a plaque made, and had a ceremony to name the room, the Marjorie Hattersley
Children's Room in honor of Marge, who had retired around that time, and had been the children's librarian
Another big project was making the building handicapped accessible. There were many complications along
the way, and the funds to do the work would be spread over five years. Partly related to the job was the
general improvement of the appearance and usefulness of the formerly dungeon-like parts of the basement.
Unfortunately, quite possibly due to the mold or other things that had been growing undisturbed in there for
decades, Elaine developed asthma at that time.
One morning, several years into the accessibility project, Elaine walked into the library and found that the
workers were planning to move the circulation desk ten or fifteen feet toward the front door. They weren't
about to take no for an answer, but no is what she was telling them. In the end, the move didn't happen.
Everyone I've talked to about that is happy she was there and wasn't about to get pushed around.
Decades ago the main parts of the Statue of Hope had been covered during the winter. By the time Elaine
was at the library, the covering was long gone. It had probably rotted away, and the statue was deteriorating.
It was looking pretty bad. Elaine didn't want to see further deterioration. She got an estimate of $40,000 to do
the needed work. State Rep. Marie Parente obtained a grant in that amount, but probably because there had
been a delay, by the time the project went out to bid, none were received that were under $100,000. Elaine
wasn't discouraged. She went to work to find enough money to proceed. She got some from the town, some
from the Hopedale Foundation, and some from private donations. The whole process took about a year, and
there was one crisis after another. Even at home, I heard her making many calls to keep the job moving.
The final step of the Hope project for her was to create a completion report to be submitted to the
Massachusetts Historical Commission. She had to make four copies of it, each in a four-inch binder. It had to
be detailed, even down to the formula for the mortar used in the work. The job had to have been
photographed as work continued. Since I work for free, I was the photographer. There were more than 100
photos, and each had to be captioned, and of course multiply all of this by four.
Elaine had been meticulous about keeping every scrap of information that she'd need for the report, but
somehow the ad for bids that had been placed in the Milford News was missing. She needed a copy of it to
show that she had advertised for bids in three places. She had the other two, but not that one. Normally there
would be an easy solution to this. Somebody, probably me, would just go to the Milford Library where they
would have it on microfilm. At that time, however, the library was undergoing a huge renovation and their
microfilm projector was buried under all sorts of things. Fortunately, they were able to get the film for the date
when the ad had been published. They let me take it to the Franklin Library where I put it in their projector,
and was able to find it and print it in just a couple of minutes. I tell this just to give an idea of what was going
on to get the project done. That's just one example; there were a lot more picky things involved than that. After
the cleaning was completed, a cover was made to protect Hope in the winter. The original cover, which
outlived its predicted lifetime, was found to be unsuited for use this winter. (2018-2019) A fund-raising
campaign provided the money for a new one.
The fifth of Elaine's library goals, barcoding, was in progress when she retired in 2001.
In addition to her major goals, Elaine was always working on smaller projects. One example would be the
Christmas tea. Not long after she began working at the library, she decided she wanted to do something to
get more people into the building. She came up with the idea of holding a Christmas tea. The Christmas tea
was what she always called it, but I'd say it was a Christmas lunch. She did it annually up until her last year
there. With assistance and funds from the Friends of the Hopedale Library, she'd rent china (no paper plates
or cups for that event), make sandwiches, etc., etc. and host about 120 people. Yes, 120 people in the
library, all on the main floor.
A big part of the teas were the ornaments. Some years she would cross-stitch about 140 ornaments of
different patterns. They'd take at least eight hours apiece to do. They'd be hung on a Christmas tree and as
the guests left they could each take one. (Why 140 ornaments for 120 people? There were always homes in
need of the extras.) More often she'd buy twelve to fourteen dozen wooden ornaments and paint them. They
were fairly intricate and would take about the same amount of time to do as the cross-stitched ones. By
January, she'd be starting on ornaments for the next year.
For the most part, Elaine had very little concern about money, as evidenced by the fact that checks would
often sit around the house uncashed for months. She wouldn't hesitate to buy the best yarn, or go to
Northboro where her favorite meat market was, to buy 40 pounds of corned beef every year for St. Patrick's
Day dinners. But we got along fine as a one car family for 35 years of our nearly 52 years of marriage. In
1969 we were looking for a house to buy, and came across a nice one in Grafton. We probably would have
bought it, but the price was an outrageous $25,000. A few months later we found a more affordable house
($14,000, with a mortgage payment of $85 a month for 20 years) on Inman Street. We moved into it in
February 1970 and she was never interested in living anywhere else.
Elaine liked to be very precise about things. Often at medical appointments she'd be asked if she was, or
ever had been, a smoker. She'd reply yes, she had been many years ago. I'd remind her that was for two
weeks when she was 17. For all practical purposes, the answer should be, "No."
For many years Elaine had said that she wanted to go to Alaska and Hawaii. In 2007 we went to Alaska.
More recently Ted and Paula were planning to go to Hawaii and wanted us to go with them. I said if they
could move Hawaii about 5,000 miles closer I'd go, but not until then. That was okay with Elaine. If I wasn't
going she wasn't going and she never complained about it.
Sometimes Elaine could be very patient and other times very impatient. When we were out in the car, I'd see
what I'd regard as normal traffic, and she'd see a road crowded with idiots. Actually, there was another term
she'd use more than idiots. When she was knitting, she'd occasionally see that she'd made a mistake,
sometimes 40 rows back, and usually something only she would notice. Without a word she'd tear it out and
redo it. When we moved to Inman Street, we knew we wanted to make lots of changes in the kitchen. We
didn't rush into it. We thought about what to do for three or four years, and then it took another three years to
get the job done. For a long time our island countertop was just a piece of plywood. Although she was
working in the kitchen every day, the long process never seemed to bother her.
Elaine was diagnosed with cancer in 2016. Over the next three years, she was in the operating room ten
times, had twelve bladder infusions, and countless rounds of chemo, scans and various other medical
procedures. She tolerated the chemo amazingly well, but in the end it didn't give the hoped for result. What
I've written here just gives a hint as to what she was like. I think all who knew us, knew how much we loved
each other, and have an idea of how much I'll miss her. I had hoped we'd have another twenty years together.
. Elaine's memories of growing up in Mendon in the 1950s.
Elaine at her desk at Atria - Draper Place in 2011.
The following is from Deb Rudy, Elaine's roommate at Brigham & Women's, where she was a patient for a
few days before she was sent to Blaire House in Milford, where she passed on March 22, 2019.
Oh Danny I am so devastated. Thank you for letting me know. I know we only knew each other for a couple of
days, but I feel like we were lifelong friends. I can honestly say I have never clicked with another person so
instantly. Elaine and I had so many conversations about our lives, family, loves and hates. She talked about
you and how much she loved you from the moment she saw you. She told me she loved you more each day.
She told me it was love at first sight. We also spoke of her travels abroad with her mother. She described
places with such flare and passion I felt like I was there! What a joy it was, those conversations. When the
nurses would come in the middle of the night to check on us we would chat for a while until we both drifted off
to sleep. We even mentioned it was like having a sleep-over. I will miss her. I will never forget her! I am so
sorry for your loss Danny. If there is anything I can do, please let me know. I feel privileged to have met all of
you. Please give my condolences to everyone.
In 1999, Elaine organized an event to celebrate the 100th anniversary
of the Bancroft Memorial Library. She painted about 120 of the
ornament shown above to give as favors to the guests.
opening of the Little Red Shop Museum. Elaine painted many of each of them,
but I've forgotten when they were given out. Over her years as library director,
she did about 120 ornaments each year for the annual Christmas teas.
When Elaine was four, her mother taught her how
to knit. Over the next seven decades she created
countless sweaters, hats, scarves and other items.
stitching, sewing, painting or quilting.
Elaine and Dan in a small plane in Alaska in 2007.
Occasionally Elaine would make up her own pattern for a cross-
stitching, such as the one for the Hopedale Community House.
Our tables were often covered with projects such as this one.
This is a christening gown Elaine made from
the baby's grandmother's wedding dress.
I'm not sure what Elaine painted these ornaments for, but
some of them might have been for the Christmas teas at the
library. They were usually all gone by the end of the event,
but she may have set a few aside.
This little guy with his bundle of sticks was one of about 30 or
more that Elaine painted for Christmas presents one year.
These nutcracker soldiers were given to Elaine by Dick Orff. Actually he gave her
about eight of them of several different designs. His wife, Bev, had bought them
but hadn't gotten around to painting them. After she passed away Dick gave them
to Elaine. Over a period of several years she painted all of them, and gave away
all except one.
This is the article Elaine saw in the Milford News in
1963 that instantly led to her decision to marry me. I
have no idea why, but it certainly worked for both of us.