Lilla Joy Draper Scharnberg
Hopedale, Massachusetts in 1911, she was the daughter of the late Clare H. Drapers of Boston, a
niece of the late Princess Margaret Boncompagni and granddaughter of General William F. Draper of
She graduated from Westover School in Middlebury, Connecticut in 1929 and was a member of the
Vincent Club, the Junior League of Boston and the Dedham Country and Polo Club. A former resident
of Dover, Wellesley Hills, Westwood and Needham, she was an active volunteer in the local and
Boston areas, including, the Museum of Fine Arts and the New England Aquarium. She was involved
with Boy and Girl Scouting and was well known as a talented amateur painter.
She is predeceased by her brothers Clare H. Draper, Jr., George Draper, Harry E. Draper and William
F. Draper and her sister Grace Draper Gallaway and son, Major Ronald O. Scharnberg.
She was the devoted wife of Oliver H. Scharnberg of Wellesley Hills for 27 years. She is survived by
four children, Arthur Draper Calfee of Falmouth, Massachusetts, Joy Calfee Roberts and Grace Calfee
McMullen of California, and James F. Scharnberg of Pennsylvania. She is also survived by 10
grandchildren and 11 great-grandchildren.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Employees Appreciation Fund of North Hill, 865
Central Avenue, Needham, MA 02492.
Services will be private.
Born in Washington, D.C., she was the daughter of Lilla Draper Scharnberg and Arthur Davidson
Calfee of Boston, and granddaughter of the late Clare H. Drapers of Boston, a grandniece of the late
Princess Margaret Boncompagni and great-granddaughter of General William F. Draper of Hopedale,
MA. She was raised in the Wellesley area of Massachusetts, and graduated from Beaver Country Day
School in Chestnut Hill and Briarcliff College in New York. She was an active member of both the
Junior League and the Vincent Club and volunteered in the Boston area. She lived in New York City
and Boston until her marriage to the late Terence Perry McMullen in 1971. They traveled extensively
and lived in various international cities including Beirut, Abu Dhabi, Mumbai, and Amman, Jordan. They
moved to Chicago in 1977 and settled in Northridge in 1982, where they were active members of the
Porter Valley Country Club. Grace continued to be involved with the Club's 9 Tees and was on the
Board of Directors for many years. She also was a member of the Northridge Woman's Club, the Red
Hats and enjoyed singing with the San Fernando Valley Chorale. She and her Cavalier King Charles
spaniel, Charlie, were members of Therapy Dogs Incorporated and visited several hospitals in the
area. She was an amateur artist and an avid cow collector. Grace was a "Super Mom," who was
always there for every soccer game, baseball game, swim meet and theater performance and loved
going on trips with her kids. She loved to travel and visited Mexico, China, South America, Canada,
Europe, Africa, and Russia, covering all the continents except Antarctica. Grace is survived by son,
Stuart Carter McMullen and his wife, Karie Alan McMullen, and two grandchildren, Mason Carter
McMullen and Kaitlyn Grace McMullen, all of Westlake Village, and her daughter, Audrey Draper
McMullen, of the world. She is also survived by her brother, Arthur Draper Calfee of Falmouth, MA, and
sister, Joy Calfee Roberts of San Andreas, CA, six nieces and nephews and several grand nieces and
nephews. A Memorial/Committal will be held on Saturday, November 26th at Highland Cemetery in
Dover, Massachusetts at 3:30PM with a reception to follow at the Sheraton in Needham. To RSVP,
please call 818-366-6420. Memorial contributions may be sent to the ASPCA, the Ronald Reagan
Presidential Library or the Red Cross. Boston Globe - http://www.legacy.