Sophie C. W. Draper
PORTLAND, MAINE — Sophie Carter Whitin Draper died peacefully at the Maine Medical Center in Portland on May 26, 2006.
Sophie was born in Northbridge, Massachusetts on January 21, 1912, the second of five children of Paul and Rebecca Whitin. She was educated at the Bowling Alley School and Miss Porter’s School in Farmington, Connecticut. In 1934, she married stockbroker George Draper of Hopedale, Massachusetts, their marriage bringing together the Whitin and Draper families of the Blackstone Valley. The Drapers lived in Boston until 1942, when George enlisted in the army. Sophie moved with their two children to Dover, MA, where she worked as a volunteer for the Red Cross during George’s three-year absence in North Africa, Italy, and the Philippines. After the war, the couple had two more children and remained in Dover for twenty-five years. In 1967 they moved back to Boston, where, for the next thirty-five years, Sophie served as a volunteer for a wide variety of Boston-based organizations: WBZ’s Call for Action, the Boston Symphony Orchestra, the Ellis Memorial Hospital, the Visiting Nurses Association, the Chinese Institute, and the Vincent Club among them. In 2003, Sophie moved to the Piper Shores community in Scarborough, ME, where her sister, Cora Truslow, was already a resident.
Sophie was predeceased by her husband, George, and a daughter, Sophie Draper of Northfield, IL. She is survived by her sister, Cora, her sister-in-law Lilla Scharnberg of Needham, MA, her daughters, Rebecca King of Greenfield, MA, and Matilda Graham of Kansas City, MO, her son, George Draper of Sorrento, ME, nine grandchildren and many nieces, nephews and cousins.
Sophie was a devoted pianist and gardener, and a brilliant and beloved hostess. She deeply loved her family, which, over the years, grew to include every person she knew.
A memorial service will be held at 2:00 o’clock on Friday, June 30 at the Dover Church in Dover, MA. Worcester Telegram, June 9, 2006
Sophie’s husband, George, was the son of Clare and Matilda (Engman) Draper. He was born on April 4, 1908. Clare was the son of General William F. and Lilla Draper.
Lilla Joy Draper Scharnberg
Lilla Joy Draper Scharnberg of North Hill, Needham, died on April 24th, 2011, at the age of 99. Born in Hopedale, Massachusetts in 1911, she was the daughter of the late Clare H. Drapers of Boston, a niece of the late Princess Margaret Boncompagni and granddaughter of General William F. Draper of Hopedale.
She graduated from Westover School in Middlebury, Connecticut in 1929 and was a member of the Vincent Club, the Junior League of Boston and the Dedham Country and Polo Club. A former resident of Dover, Wellesley Hills, Westwood and Needham, she was an active volunteer in the local and Boston areas, including, the Museum of Fine Arts and the New England Aquarium. She was involved with Boy and Girl Scouting and was well known as a talented amateur painter.
She is predeceased by her brothers Clare H. Draper, Jr., George Draper, Harry E. Draper and William F. Draper and her sister Grace Draper Gallaway and son, Major Ronald O. Scharnberg.
She was the devoted wife of Oliver H. Scharnberg of Wellesley Hills for 27 years. She is survived by four children, Arthur Draper Calfee of Falmouth, Massachusetts, Joy Calfee Roberts and Grace Calfee McMullen of California, and James F. Scharnberg of Pennsylvania. She is also survived by 10 grandchildren and 11 great-grandchildren.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Employees Appreciation Fund of North Hill, 865 Central Avenue, Needham, MA 02492.
Services will be private.
McMULLEN, Grace Calfee Died on September 11th, 2016 at Northridge Hospital after a short illness. Born in Washington, D.C., she was the daughter of Lilla Draper Scharnberg and Arthur Davidson Calfee of Boston, and granddaughter of the late Clare H. Drapers of Boston, a grandniece of the late Princess Margaret Boncompagni and great-granddaughter of General William F. Draper of Hopedale, MA. She was raised in the Wellesley area of Massachusetts, and graduated from Beaver Country Day School in Chestnut Hill and Briarcliff College in New York. She was an active member of both the Junior League and the Vincent Club and volunteered in the Boston area. She lived in New York City and Boston until her marriage to the late Terence Perry McMullen in 1971. They traveled extensively and lived in various international cities including Beirut, Abu Dhabi, Mumbai, and Amman, Jordan. They moved to Chicago in 1977 and settled in Northridge in 1982, where they were active members of the Porter Valley Country Club. Grace continued to be involved with the Club’s 9 Tees and was on the Board of Directors for many years. She also was a member of the Northridge Woman’s Club, the Red Hats and enjoyed singing with the San Fernando Valley Chorale. She and her Cavalier King Charles spaniel, Charlie, were members of Therapy Dogs Incorporated and visited several hospitals in the area. She was an amateur artist and an avid cow collector. Grace was a “Super Mom,” who was always there for every soccer game, baseball game, swim meet and theater performance and loved going on trips with her kids. She loved to travel and visited Mexico, China, South America, Canada, Europe, Africa, and Russia, covering all the continents except Antarctica. Grace is survived by son, Stuart Carter McMullen and his wife, Karie Alan McMullen, and two grandchildren, Mason Carter McMullen and Kaitlyn Grace McMullen, all of Westlake Village, and her daughter, Audrey Draper McMullen, of the world. She is also survived by her brother, Arthur Draper Calfee of Falmouth, MA, and sister, Joy Calfee Roberts of San Andreas, CA, six nieces and nephews and several grand nieces and nephews. A Memorial/Committal will be held on Saturday, November 26th at Highland Cemetery in Dover, Massachusetts at 3:30PM with a reception to follow at the Sheraton in Needham. To RSVP, please call 818-366-6420. Memorial contributions may be sent to the ASPCA, the Ronald Reagan Presidential Library or the Red Cross. Boston Globe – http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/bostonglobe/obituary.aspx?page=lifestory&pid=182195654
OBITUARY
Written by Joy C. Roberts
JOY CALFEE ROBERTS of Oak Shadows Mobile Home Park, San Andreas died at Golden San Andreas Care Center, Wednesday, May 10, 2023. She had been battling colon cancer since 2019. Born in Boston, Massachusetts, she was raised in the Wellesley area of Boston, MA. She was the daughter of Lilla Joy Draper Scharnberg and Arthur Davidson Calfee of Boston, and granddaughter of the late Clare Hill Drapers of Boston, a grandniece of the late Princess Margaret Boncompagni and great granddaughter of General William F. Draper of Hopedale. She graduated from Beaver Country Day School and Briarcliff College in New York. She was an active member of both the Junior League and the Vincent Club and volunteered around the Boston area. She moved to San Francisco in the 1960s where she married the late Thad Roberts of Wenatchee, WA.
A former resident of Indian Wells, Fallbrook, Laguna Beach and Newport Beach, she traveled with her husband and daughter to various international cities, including Montreal and Winnipeg, Canada; Fairbanks, Alaska, and Liberia, Africa.
Ms. Roberts (or Joy) was an amateur anthropologist and was always interested in the welfare of man. She considered herself a very lucky woman and insisted on “giving back”; she volunteered in every town she lived in. She also loved to travel and visited many countries around the world from 1985 until her death, including many countries in Europe and South America, Africa, Tonga, Mexico, Russia, and Egypt.
After working for many years in the Costa Mesa-Newport area, she moved to Calaveras County in 2002, to be closer to her daughter, Ann, and new grandson, Michael Thad Seely, and later, granddaughter, Elizabeth Joy. She truly enjoyed the small country town living of San Andreas. She loved all music and dancing and was secretary of the Valley Springs Calaveras Twirlers square dance club for many years. An avid reader, she joined the Mountain Ranch Book & Discussion Group, as well as Writers Unlimited in San Andreas and became Business Manager of the publishing arm, Manzanita Writers Press, and then an active Board member of the Manzanita Arts Emporium. She began volunteering at the Volunteer Center of Calaveras County in 2005 and became Assistant Director of the organization. She loved watching her two grandchildren grow during their school years at San Andreas Elementary and Calaveras High Schools.
Joy Roberts was a happy person and tried hard to make the world a better place. She believed that life was to be fun – if you had to do something, you might as well have fun doing it!
Joy is survived by her daughter, Ann Roberts Seely, and two grandchildren, Michael Thad Seely and Elizabeth Joy Seely, all of San Andreas. She was survived by her brother, Arthur Draper Calfee, of Falmouth, MA, seven nieces and nephews and several grand nieces and nephews.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to:
Volunteer Center of Calaveras County
P.O. Box 196
San Andreas, CA 95249 – or –
Manzanita Writers Press
P.O. Box 460
Angels Camp, CA 95222
Arthur Draper Calfee, age 85, died peacefully at home August 1st, 2023, with his loving family by his side. Soft music played in the background, just as he wished. He valiantly fought vascular dementia and heart ventricle issues for many years. Born on August 19, 1937 to Lilla Joy (Draper) Scharnberg and Arthur Davidson Calfee in New York City, NY. His early childhood was spent in Virginia when his father was attached to the United States Pentagon during WWII. His family moved to dover, MA when Arthur was in elementary school and then Wellesley, Mass.
Arthur graduated from Rivers Country Day School (Brookline Campus) in 1956. His double major in psychology and business earned him a Bachelor of Science from Colby College in 1960. At that time, he married Lila (Cornell) Calfee and his first son was born.
The degree led the young family to move to Rhode Island to begin his professional career as a Trainee Claims Adjuster for Boston Old Colony Insurance Company. He was promoted to manager at the Providence office in 1964 at the age of 26. Arthur then accepted a position with the L.C. Antonellis Insurance Agency in Falmouth, Mass., enabling him and his now three children & spouse to reside on Cape Cod.
Arthur was divorced, he met Booje, his future wife and they were married in 1973 exactly one year after their first date. Arthur and Booje then had two children and also raised Arthur’s three children from his previous marriage.
In 1974, Arthur became a Senior Partner in the Antonellis Agency. From 1979 to 1984, he volunteered as a Commercial Insurance Instructor for SCORE at Cape Cod Community College. In 1980, Arthur incorporated his own business, the Arthur D. Calfee Insurance Agency, Inc. located in Falmouth at Homeport Plaza.
In 1987, he purchased the J. Everett Noyes Insurance Agency in North Falmouth that enabled his business to have a satellite office. The year 1989 marked his purchase of the Gordon Bryden Insurance Agency adding their staff to his North Falmouth office location. His business association memberships included the Cape Cod Agents Association, Massachusetts Association of Independent Agents, Professional Insurance Agents Association, National Federation of Independent Businesses, Falmouth Chamber of Commerce and the Cape Cod Chamber of Commerce. He was a member of the Better Business Bureau from 1984-1991, Director 1985-1988.
Arthur enjoyed many leadership roles in Falmouth including; President of Falmouth Kiwanis (1977-78), President of Falmouth Council for Civic Beautification (1986-90), Vice President of Restoration of Highfield (18 Years), Town of Falmouth Meeting Member (25 Years), Belvidere Plains Treasurer (23 Years), Falmouth Yacht Club Board of Governors (2 Years), Falmouth Hospital Foundation (1986-91) & Executive Committee (1985-88), Chairman of the Falmouth Design & Review Committee (18 Years), Deacon & Trustee at First Congregational Church (several terms). He also was an active participant in the Boy Scout Troop 40 (Leader 2 Years) & Merit Badge Counselor, and active participant in Cape Cod Sports Car Club and Cape Cod British Car Club.
Arthur spent much of his time in volunteer pursuits to help Falmouth maintain its scenic reputation. He was a member of many nonprofit organizations, helping whenever asked and wherever needed. He was honored to receive the 1997 Citizen of the Year Award from the Chamber of Commerce. Also, the 5th Annual ‘Heritage’ Award in 2004 from the Falmouth Historical Society.
Totally genuine in spirit and action, Arthur was a gentle giant who did not back away from challenges, especially where it concerned his family or the Town of Falmouth’s best interests. His loss will be greatly felt.
Arthur leaves his devoted loving wife J. (Bujak) Calfee who prefers to be called Booje. His five children; A. Joseph Calfee (Nancy) of Falmouth, MA; Craig Draper Calfee (Min) of Watsonville, CA; Jill Cornell Smith (Brian, deceased) of E. Greenwich, RI; Michael Kitten Draper Calfee of San Franciso, CA; and Davidson Oliver Calfee (Keli) of Sandwich, MA.
Predeceased by his parents, two younger sisters: Joy Beedy Roberts and Grace Draper McMullen of California, stepbrother James F. Scharnberg of Pennsylvania, Granddaughter Wyonna Buscek, brother-in-law, Paul M. Bujak (Gladys) of Ohio.
Grandchildren; Nitana Buscek of CA, Lena Brown of CA, Mateo Calfee of CA, Maya Calfee of CA, Megan Joy Smith of MA, Daniel Joseph Smith of MA, Daniel Zigante of MA and Luke Draper Calfee of MA.
Nieces; Ann Roberts Seely (Steven) of CA, Audrey McMullen of CA, Kristen Hazenfield (Todd) of OH, Karla Rider (Andrew) of SC.
Nephews; Stuart McMullen (Kari) of CO, Michael Bujak of GA, Clifford Bujak of OH, Alexander Scharnberg of NC, Eric Scharnberg (Christina) of VT.
A Memorial Service will be held at the First Congregational Church, Village Green, Falmouth, MA. Saturday, September 23rd at 2pm. The burial will be private at Oak Grove Cemetery, Falmouth.
In lieu of flowers, in Arthur’s memory donations may be sent to:
CHC Dementia and Alzheimer’s Caregiver Support, Cape Cod Healthcare Foundation, PO Box 370, Hyannis, MA 02601 (marking check with ‘caregiver support’)
The 300 Committee, 157 Locust Street, Falmouth, MA 02540, or your choice of any other organization that is concerned with the preservation of the beauty of Falmouth.
